What is Black Widow gonna do without her hulk?
After about 2 long years of being neglected, we have a new post! Unfortunately this will also be the last post as Ken & Miin’s journey together came to an end, not particularly abrupt, but sudden.
That night it happened
On a fateful night on the 4th December of 2018, after endless struggling and fights, Miin appeared at my garage as I was pulling into the driveway. My first reaction was a good one; thinking she came to reconcile after yet another banter.
Turns out I was wrong, she came with the car full of my belongings and objects of sentimental value.
“Hey, what are you doing here?” I said, not realising the end was near. I was hoping we could end our fight once again to regain harmony.
Then I vaguely remember her pointing towards her car, saying she packed my stuffs. At this moment I knew she have already decided to end the 5 years+ relationship.
Gradual decay? Or complete meltdown?
The past year has been especially tough for the relationship. Often a small undesired action triggers full-on fights. When did the our relationship become so volatile? When did we stop accepting each other’s flaws? When did we stop being the number 1 person on each other’s team? When did we stop admiring each other’s everything?
The number of times we were on the verge on giving up the relationship is numerous. Each time having at least one person not willing to give up our cherished relationship. Things would get better for a few weeks (sometimes days) before the relationship inevitably implodes on itself. Many times hurting both of us deeply.
Memories
I still remember the time when things are going as if we are mend for each other. How our lives values are aligned, our goals in life are similar, and we’re going to work very near each other next year. Our families are also supportive of whatever we were doing. I’ll cherish:
- The time we made a song
- The time we crossed the Victoria-South Australia border in a canoe
- The time when each of us were not doing particularly well in our lives, we grew closer in the face of crisis
- The time we were immobilised by heavy rain and had noodles in the shelter of a tent
- The time we were exploring an empty park
- The time Miin saved me from a friendly dog
- The time we thought were our last breath on a ski lift during a blizzard
- The time we watched the sunset together on Mt Dandenong
- The time we got food poisoning from our favourite restaurant
- The time Miin cut my hair
- The time we went to Cherry farm on a 40 degrees day
- The time we wore ponchos for 4 seasons
- The time we explored Mt Buller snowboarding
- The time we went to Ikea to get inspiration for our future home
- The time we thought nothing could stand in our way
- The time we found each other when we were both lonely in a new city
- The time we believed love is real
Moving on
In the end, these are all memories. Having great memories doesn’t mean we are compatible with each other. Maybe we needed each other at that point of our lives. Maybe we were two lonely souls in a new environment. Maybe we were each other’s stepping stone to something greater.
I just hope we’ll both find better no, more suitable partners. I hope our ability to love will not be crippled by this relationship. And I hope we’ll be able to feel joy of love again. Not sure when we’ll cross path again, we do live in a relatively small city. Until then,
Goodbye, bb – Ken
